THOSE FADING RELATIONS...

      To the friend I lost in time

Once upon a time, we were as close as two cars are on an Indian road. You knew everything about me and I knew most of the things about you. I didn't call you my best friend but I would have definitely taken a bullet for you. .

We still talk occasionally, I'll wish you on your birthday and congratulate you for your achievements. But only through social media will you know who my new acquaintance is, you won't know about my problems at work and I don't know about how you're doing at home. .

As we went on with our lives, there came a time when we came to a junction from where both of us headed down two opposite directions. At the start of these roads, both of us had so many rivers to cross and hills to climb, that neither of us had the time to look back and when we did finally find the time, the gap between us was too wide and the only thing we could do was smile and wave. .

As I head down the path I chose, I often see flowers growing on the side of the road that I know you would have liked. I pick them and turn around to show them to you only to be reminded that you're too far away now to notice the pattern on the petals. Sometimes I even look back on the road we walked down together and realize that it was only because of you that it was so pretty. .

You showed me the flowers that grew on your side of the road and smiled when I showed you the ones on my side. Maybe as I head further down on this path, I'll find someone to share this new journey with but god knows if she will like the same flowers as you did and gods knows how long it will take for me to know. . But every now and then I will still turn around maybe to see you fading further away or maybe you will have turned back too. But for however long I can see your silhouette, I will look back and smile, maybe because I'll always see my favourite You and the road we walked down together or maybe just because you're one of the people I cannot look at without smiling till my wisdom teeth shows.....

WHY TO PUT ON A MASK?

Before I inscribe my subject I would resemble to a short story which influenced me to write this piece of mine….
“Once a young executive with poor self-esteem was promoted but he could not reconcile himself to his new office and position. One morning, there was a knock at his door; to show how important and busy he was, he picked up the phone and then asked the visitor to come in. As the man waited for the executive, the executive kept talking on the phone, nodding and saying “No Problem, I can handle that”. After a few minutes he hung up and asked the visitor what he could do for him. The man replied, “sir, I’m here to connect your phone.” :)
The above story made me understand that we mustn’t really refuse the gift that is continuously being offered to us – a fullness of being. We must never refuse the gift of being our true selves by trying to be somebody else. But so often we put on the mask of another, trying to be anyone but ourselves in the vain hope that we can escape to something better but in reality there is no ‘ better ‘ only diverse and we should commemorate this by being who WE really are. If we keep on insisting to be other people we may certainly not discover our real worth. When we project onto the world an image of another, an impostor, people often sense this and perhaps being too gracious in saying anything, they implicitly allow us to continue with the masquerade. But we must never allow this to happen – we must never abandon our true nature so that we may become strangers to ourselves and others. Remaining steadfast and confident within our own sense of being we can start to open up to the inner wealth that we have been blessed with, the inner riches that lie awaiting. And who knows what we can realize when we tap into this vast potential….. Whoever we are, whatever direction we come from, whatever route we take, we all face the same issue of self examination and we must all deal with this squarely and directly otherwise we run the risk of wasting our lives and that would be a diminishment – not only of ourselves but the wider community in which we serve. So many of us hide from ourselves and we don't even know who we are and why were we here? All people will prove they are better and put fake masks on their own faces. Every people pretend themselves what they actually are not from inside. Afraid to show the reality and hide their best quality. Tell people how it is, be real and be honest. If you see something wrong make sure you speak up. Being this way will naturally eliminate the snakes and fakes. They may take you as a fool, assure to shower you with the world, use their canny devastating tongue to manipulate and dominate your mind, but its better to put those bulshit people at arms length rather than falling into the arms of infidelity. There's no use of pretending to be good in front of people who are also doing same to us.
“ Mutual Deceptions don't lead anywhere !!”
Some people will leave you soon no matter how, but it's not the ending of your story, it's just the ending of their role in your story. Cause life goes on… Conversely one of life’s ironies is that the more straightforward and vulnerable you are, the more others try to discredit you as a fraud and a fake. Well in that case I would suggest… Shut them up by not caring.”

HOW WOULD YOU LIKE TO BE REMEMBERED ??

HOW WOULD YOU LIKE TO BE REMEMBERED ??

THAT BEWILDEREDNESS ...

We sometimes come across circumstances where we get emotionally confused.... which side to opt and support?... How to react?... How to answer the situations?...Should we speak out or Should we bare?.. Came across the same complex,unusual,critical situation... Perplexed I feel today....

Someone rightly said..." ONE SHOULD RIGHTLY KNOW THE ART OF RESPONDING RATHER THAN REACTING TO THE SITUATIONS..."

Responding- answering the situation with a positive approach. Reacting- answering the situation with a negative approach...
This is the statement which i keep in mind every time i have to mitigate a circumstance in-front of me... But unfortunately our actions are controlled by our Heart and Brain both... Mostly the former one rules.. Therefore even the simple drop of water is seen as a flood...:/ our mind needs just one hint and our heart takes the whole initiative of building a huge story out of the simple word.. and then we REACT to it... after reacting when the whole situation has got worsened our mind starts working towards the unfortunate reaction and then we understand and feel sorry.. that is the time when we Respond...
By reading this piece of mine upto above point you might feel why this lecture-baazi... :);)
I am actually going through rough patches of situation right now.. don't know whether to react or respond.. when i think of responding i feel Is the other person worth it??!! Does He/She really deserve a calm and sophisticated answer  towards the circumstances created??!! it's getting difficult for me to understand the mind-set of people out there... the unexpected reactions of my so called once upon a time loved ones provoked me to write this piece of mine...i think of  what an puissant alchemy i use to share with them before, which suddenly unfortunately has turned boorish...,
Never minding the left ones.. stepping forward without looking back is the best remedy i feel... being reverent to people who once were a part of my life...i wish they held tight to travel towards my destiny... unfortunately as Life always hovers between accepting and rejecting... will overcome this as well:) :)  and yess will not forget those who swayed along...grateful and thankful to those who has still held tight... this is what makes me move-on and live up my dreams...:) :) Life is balanced... not everyone is meant to be in your life....:);)

THE BEGINNING...

HAVING A STOLID OR RATHER PHLEGMATIC PERSONALITY APART FROM BEING A MAVERICK MAKING AN ATTEMPT OF SHARING MY VIEWS AND THOUGHTS WITH MY READERS WHICH UNTIL NOW WAS SHARED AND DISCUSSED WITH MY CONSCIENCE.. :)

TRYING TO AMELIORATE MY JUDGEMENT, BEHAVIOR, THOUGHTS AND  VIEWS REGARDING THIS SO CALLED CONVOLUTED WORLD AND ITS PEOPLE.

I HAVE AN INDIRECT ARDOR TOWARDS THIS MENDACIOUS WORLD... ALWAYS IN STRUGGLE TO KNOW WHAT'S RIGHT AND WHAT'S WRONG, BUT UNFORTUNATELY CONCLUSIONS ARRIVED ARE NEVER SATISFACTORY...

MESMERIZED BY THE WORLDLY BEHAVIOR ENCOURAGES ME TO GET ON TO WRITING MY PIECE..:)

MY UNFEIGNED ATTEMPT TO EXPRESS MY VIEWS AND THOUGHTS IN MY POSTS.... 

THIS BEING MY FIRST POST WILL NOT JUMP ON TO SHARING MY ENCOUNTERS WITH BOORISH PERSONALITIES... ;) :) WILL RESERVE THAT FOR FUTURE POSTS... :)

MY FIRST POST.. MY BEGINNING.. :)

A PAEAN SHALL BE ACCEPTED WITH WHOLE FULL OF HEART.. :);)

I HOPE AND WISH MY EXTEMPORIZED ATTEMPT SHALL BE READ AND FOLLOWED...:)